A lot of people seem to be unaware of who they really are… they’ve never stopped to figure it out, just doing what they’ve learned that other people expect them to do, what they think they “should” do, rather than what is right for them.

If you would prefer to find fulfillment, rather than just trudging through life, you need to break that mold.  You need to really figure out who you are, and whatyou really want to do.

The good news is that it’s pretty easy to do, although some people have trouble with the concept the first time or two.  So… are you ready for it?  Do you want to know how to find fulfillment in your life?

All you need is a little directed daydreaming… you just need to daydream enough to answer this question:

If you had no responsibilities, no pressures, no need to worry about making money, paying bills, doing chores, or taking care of anyone… what would you do?

This isn’t asking what would you do with a billion dollars, and answers like “be with my spouse” don’t really answer the question… the question is what would you DO, not who would you do it with.

There is no wrong answer… what you want to do may not be popular, or may even be looked down upon by society, but that has nothing to do with whether or not it’s right for you.

I’ll get this started by answering the question myself:  I would travel a bit (Australia and Italy are at the top of my list), go fishing (hence the picture), write fiction, make things out of wood (particularly furniture), and design clothing (See?  It doesn’t have to be an “accepted” activity.).

Once you figure out what it is that you would do if you were given complete freedom, why not see if you can work some of that into your life now?  I can go fishing, make things out of wood (at least small things, I don’t have room anywhere for a workshop), and write without doing anything more than spending a little bit of money and dedicating the time to it.  If I knew how to find software that would allow me to alter basic patterns, I might get started on the clothing, too (oh, and find someone to make it for me once I have the pattern… I don’t sew, other than patches on my uniform when I was in the Army).

I’m really curious… what would you do?  Anyone else for some nice relaxing fishing?  If you have any inclination to do so, please answer in the comments… I would really like to know.

PS – I read a really good article the other day at The Art Of Manliness that you may like.